The not so great side of being a SpecialSib

I think it is inevitable that being a sibling of someone with special needs that, at some point you will experience your sibling getting mad and throwing a fit. Some siblings will experience this more often than others which just depends on your sibling and their disability. In my family I feel like I experience this more often than not. My sister will have good days or sometimes even weeks, but she always ends that honeymoon period with an even larger tantrum or something like that. Often times when my sister gets mad it is because she doesn't want to eat what is for dinner, or she doesn't want to get ready for bed, or someone else got mad and that rubs off on her and makes her angry also. Once she is just a tiny bit angry, it typically turns into an all night event of screaming and fighting. Not exactly the greatest way to end a day. In fact, just last night we had one of these nights. We had just gotten home from talker speech, it was our first full week back at school, and she was just tired. For some reason or another, she got mad and started to throw a fit. When she throws a fit, it is not fun to listen to, and seems to put the whole house in a bad mood. Having her throw a tantrum isn't my idea of a way to enjoy an evening with your family. I also really hate having to experience her fits and everything like that, but it is just a part of my life and part of being a sibling of someone with special needs. And, I think that most Specialsibz would also agree with me. Often times, when Megin starts throwing a fit, I decide to finish whatever I am doing, most often dishes and then go into my bedroom and try to focus on something else so I don't have to listen to her screaming and throwing things. Most of the time that doesn't work because there is too much banging or screaming. After awhile of her screaming, it gets annoying and makes me irritated. But she also only throws fits when we are just with us. We went to the mountains with my dads family and the whole time, she never threw a fit. But, as soon as we got back to our house, she of course threw a fit. We also have an adopted college student named Mackenzie who has become a part of our family, but she also has never seen Megin in her angry state.  I don't know why she doesn't throw fits in front of Mackenzie, but she just doesn't. Also sometimes my friends who have typical siblings don't get my struggles which can be annoying and irritating because they just don't get it.  Overall, there are good parts to being a Specialsibz like being able to have a pure relationship and learning acceptance and things like that. And then there are the times when it is hard to be a SpecialSib with the fights and things like that. But no matter what, I couldn't be happier with how Megin has impacted my life.

Megin is the one on the left. Mackenzie in the middle, and me on the right. :)